Excessive guardianship puts in consciousness of the child information that surrounding life is full of dangers and that he needs the person capable to protect it, to take under the aegis.
Our children become more senior, and over the years it is more difficult and more difficult to find such person.
You sometime saw how the baby bird hatches from egg?
He in a literal sense should give all the best completely to punch a shell and to leave it.
And there is a wish to break a shell and to help it to get out.. . . . . . Read more -->
Alas, who from us did not meet the people making in the face of all such that would be necessary to them after that to leave to other room and to hang, on the contrary, live and look to people in the face indifferently.
About such speak: the burned.
I know establishment where the head of the laboratory strongly did not get on with the bad chief, criticized, achieved justice.
And it it was bad and to her employees got.
Spoke to it: Well you cannot get on with the administration, find a common language with it?. . . . . . Read more -->
Any gift, any help to someone comes back to us a hundredfold richness of good in soul of the child.
We would regret nothing if the child suddenly got sick, all to a thread would lower in the house if only to put it on feet.
But unless that health which is expressed in aspiration to good, unless it means to us, than health physical less?
Why and not to be spent?
And as far as own courage is enough, we will set a fearlessness example before people.
In the house where there are children, it is impossible to be afraid too of thieves, to lock doors on hundred locks and scaredly to ask: Who, who?. . . . . . Read more -->
In reply tell: I do not want to hurt you because I love you.
One thought that I will raise against you a hand, causes in me unpleasant feeling.
What can you offer me?
Do not think that if the child himself chooses punishment, so to that and to be.
Word of honour He can tell: I more so will not do!
Answer it: Thanks, it in many respects changes business be convinced that you thank the child for his promise.
And what to do to me if you suddenly do not keep the word?. . . . . . Read more -->
do not take others time!
and we try to burden less the son various make, descend and always we agree about the help in advance as would arrive if addressed to the stranger.
do not touch foreign feeling!
and we are afraid though a look to offend the son.
Others world do not interfere!
and we never stick with importunate questions.
do not break others rest!
respect foreign desire!
Foreign thought do not hurry to challenge!
Ten fifteen years of such education, and, maybe, feeling of the person though in a weak form will take roots in soul of the son or daughter.. . . . . . Read more -->
For crowd the criminal is danger.
The easiest way to be protected from danger to destroy it or to lock.
Our decayed criminal law is based mainly on fear, and our repressive education system too is constructed on fear fear of new generation.
Sir Martin Conway shows in the fine book Crowd in the War and in a Peace Time that the crowd likes old men.
During war she prefers old generals, during the world old doctors.
The crowd nestles close to old because is afraid of the young.. . . . . . Read more -->
, we will not adjust the to the standard made of ordinary words: And here other children already, And here I at your age.
Lets assume, ours is really worse than others, lagged behind and will lag behind from now on.
To throw out and bring another?
There are suvorovsky laws speed and an impact, but there are also Kutuzovs laws, they approach education better.
In War and peace Kutuzov speaks to Andrey Bolkonsky: To take fortress it is easy, difficult to win campaign.. . . . . . Read more -->